Coping with my 2 year old...

My name is Saphraine Nelson and I have a 2 year old...

My 2 year old is the prize of my life, I honestly wouldn't be complete without him. I am one of those girls that has wanted children my entire life, I had names picked out for them since I can remember!

I have nannied for numerous families, worked in nurserys since I was like 6 years old..I have ALWAYS wanted children.

But no one prepares you for 2's. They tell you how terrible they are or how great it is because 3 is worst.

I hit rock bottom today.

We aren't 'scheduled' people, we don't have set bedtimes, naptimes, eating times, etc. but lately Julien has been watching 1 episode of super why, dinosaur train, or Sesame street every morning.

This particular morning I let him watch 2 episodes of Go Diego Go (big mistake). When TV time was over and we turned it off he had a complete meltdown.

Coping with my 2 year old..

We distracted him with Voyage of the Dawn Treader (book), that lasted 5 minutes, we tried to take him outside...impossible, we tried to play hide and seek..didn't work..

Coping with my 2 year old...

Finally Sabba to the rescue...
He is finally calm, cool and collected reading a David Bowie book aka looking at picture of David Bowie.

Disagree all you want but around here our kids listen, watch and love David Bowie!


Coping with my 2 year old....

48 hrs with no baby

This past weekend (10/12-14) Hunter and I went to West Texas (San Angelo) for a friend's wedding.
We have been planning this trip for some time and thought since it's right around our 3rd Wedding Anniversary we should go without Julien.

We didn't talk much about it after deciding and even RSVP'd for 2 adults.

The closer it got to the date the more it started weighing on me. This would be my first weekend without Julien, my first weekend without seeing his sweet face, feeding him, running after him, consoling him....what will I do!

Even though I am very attached to my Son I knew I shouldn't back down, I WILL go on this anniversary trip without him and I WILL enjoy my time with my Husband!!

We had planned to leave early Friday morning (the 12th) while Julien was still sleeping, I am not a fan of 'sneaking out' on your children because I think that can cause fear and anxiety. So I explained to him Thursday night that when he woke up Abba and Ima would be 'bye bye' for the weekend''. He burst into tears saying 'bye bye Ima!!' I then had to explain to him that it wasn't until tomorrow and I settled him down to go to sleep.

I woke up super early to drive my brother and sister to the airport, ran errands, came to the house to pick up hunter and low and behold the clutch was going out on his car (the car we were planning on taking).
So I tried to transfer all of our stuff from his car to my car, explain to my parents what was going on and get out of there all before Julien woke up because I knew...If I had to say goodbye to that sweet face I wouldn't have the willpower to leave him.

We made it out just in time!

The first 12 hours were fine, we were having a blast! But when it was time to go to sleep without kissing Julien goodnight and singing him to sleep I got a little sad.

But, no worries, it turned out to be a great weekend for us! We got to talk to Julien first thing Saturday morning and within that 24 hour separation he started to say "yes!" when answering questions (big step for a 2 yr old). We came back Sunday afternoon and he was safe and sound with Sabba and Kiki.

Overall a successful weekend!

Wonderful Two's

Before getting into the blog, I'll give you some back story.

I have loved kids since I was a little tot, I was the one with the baby dolls attached to me at all times, holding the babies in the nursery when I was 8-10 years old. My dream was to be a Mother.

I was a nanny all through my teenage years. 2 little girls 2-4 years old, 2 boys 3-5 years old and then again 2 boys 13mo and 2 yrs for about 9-10 months. I was pretty familiar with 2 yr olds to say the least. 

When I found out I was pregnant with Julien and got my mind wrapped around it. I was fully prepared to be a Mother. This is my dream come true, I can totally handle this! I had no doubt I could handle a newborn, a toddler, a child and a teenager.

I was clearly not prepared for THIS Two yr old.

He was on a rampage 'I am independent, I am my own person, and I'm here to show you.'

Being a nanny is so sugar-coated, yes you deal with tantrums, fighting the kid to listen to you even when the mom isn't around....
This is different, this kid is mine...all mine. He knows what buttons to press, what words to say, how exactly to get his way.

We have our good days and our bad days, He can be the sweetest, cuddliest, mama's boy one moment. And screaming, hitting and rampaging the next.
It's quite the adventure around here!

 I wouldn't change one thing about it! 

8 day count down.

My sweet, little baby boy is almost.....two.

I can feel the tears coming now.

I can't believe these years have gone by SO fast, where has it gone?!
He says a new word almost every day, he's brilliant. ;)

I see him now in a size 4t shirt (it looks like it fits perfectly..i think it's stretchy), How did he grow into that? Just yesterday he was swimming in newborn onesies.
Have I mentioned how much he LOVES playing with balls? Soccer balls, footballs, tennis balls, bouncy balls...he's obsessed.
He plays soccer all day with his Sabba and CoCo, how did he learn how to kick a ball? I didn't have an hour long session teaching him all these new things he knows. he's brilliant.

Have I mentioned he's a dancer? What a dancer!! it's like he's choreographed each dance to each particular song that happens to come on the radio, He knows when it's appropriate for a slow spin or a quick hop or two. He's brilliant.

We got him a Dog on Saturday, a Labradoodle (long story) but he immediately knew it was his Dog. He ran around calling her "My", He knows how to play tag with her, walk her on her leash ( with assistance) and feed her (also with assistance). He's brilliant!
We named her Daisy, she's going to be a great dog for him.

I have 8 days until this little smarty pants turns 2, and 5 days until his birthday party. I have a long list of things I need to accomplish by Sunday but I honestly want to spend all day holding him, watching sesame street and holding back tears thinking of his baby days. How much I'll miss this cuddling, how i've enjoyed so much watching a little piece of my heart grow up, but at the same time this gut wrenching sadness that it's all happened too fast and I'll never have these same days again.

I hear over and over how much I'll enjoy every stage of life, but I see my husband, my brother, my dad..they don't have these cuddly, gushy, lovey, needy, cute, squishy relationships with their moms (honestly that would be weird). But that mother heart inside me never wants to lose that relationship! I always want him to need me, cuddle me, love me, reach for me, call my name when he needs me, cry for me, all of those things that makes your heart melt.

This is apart of growing up.

No language can express the power, and beauty, and heroism, and majesty of a mother's love.  It shrinks not where man cowers, and grows stronger where man faints, and over wastes of worldly fortunes sends the radiance of its quenchless fidelity like a star.  ~Edwin Hubbell Chapin

Child Rearing..I. Am. Not. Perfect.

Disclaimer: I am in no means perfect, I do not think I am perfect nor do I think my ways are better then your ways. This is strictly my opinion and I understand some might disagree with me.

I am a strong believer in the scripture that says: "Train up a child in the way he should go,
Even when he is old he will not depart from it."
Proverbs 22:5-7
I believe this verse is for the modern day christian. 


Every night as I lay Julien in his bed to go to sleep I pray over him for the desires of his heart, that the Lord will instill in him an obedient, gracious, loving, kind and patient heart. That he will grow to be a courageous, prophetic, worshiping, praying mighty man of God.
With this prayer I must endure the consequences, He. Is. Strong. Willed.
And with that I strongly believe in..this scripture: He who withholds his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him diligently.
Proverbs 13:23-25 :).

Take note: I do not beat my child. I discipline.

I believe in letting our children be creative, letting their active minds get to work. We let Julien bang on the drums, have loud toys, run, jump, climb, scream, laugh, play dangerously in kitchen (don't think into it), brush his own teeth, play with water, have tangled hair, wear cut up jeans...we let our child have freedom, as well as discipline. 

That is what I believe is lacking in the modern American home.

Our American culture gives children too much freedom, children are now able to choose their own Gender!? Read Here. 
We are allowing Gender Neutral bathrooms in our public schools?! Read Here
I agree with the Author of this Children Choose Gender article, an 18 month old does not know the difference between male and female yet, the parents have some serious directing to do. 

I was a Nanny the majority of my Teenage years, I have been in these homes I have seen the other side. This is why I have decided to raise my children the way that I am. I have heard the empty threats "Put that down or you'll get a spanking" 20 minutes later the child still hasn't obeyed and the parent has just left the room, time outs go from 2 minutes to 20 seconds.
The parents of America have become lazy and ignorant. 
When they are in public and their child starts raising hell at Denny's they act shocked like it never happens, unfortunately the child just doesn't know any better.
There is no discipline in these homes. 


A good friend of mine once told me 'there is no such thing as your child having a bad day, it is you that is having the bad day.' our children feed off of our attitudes, emotions, atmospheres.. 

Today Julien was cranky from not having a long enough nap before we made it to the restaurant for lunch (wouldn't you be cranky?), he did VERY well for his situation. He was very patient as we waited for the rest of our party and ate as many chips as he could until he got plain BORED. He lasted a good hour and half before it was just too much and we had to leave.
Unfortunately Julien never got to finish that nap, by the time it was 8pm and we were trying to watch a movie at my parents house he was ready to go home. I don't know how many times we had to pause the movie to hear it over his whiny 'i'm tired' cries, so it made me stressed...which made him stressed...which made everyone stressed...which made us go home early.
I have no one to blame but myself.


It is important to give your children artistic expression and freedom to become who God made them to be, but there is a reason you are an adult and God gave you that child, YOU are responsible for who that child becomes. You are the only one who can take credit for that amazing little person. People of America love your children!!  But please..don't forget to discipline them, there is a reason you are their parent.


 


 

Freed from weary chains...

It is official, I am (again) a stay at home mom.
Oh how I missed the days of snuggling with my JuBean til 9:30 in the morning. Having those days where you actually do nothing but watch movies, the freedom of planning an all day hang out day with your friends, mommy and me dates with other mother friends...

I was a SAHM for 16 months until I took this previous job, I was getting bored and decided I needed something part-time. Unfortunately a few months into the job things turned sour and not so 'part-time', I started missing Julien and our days of freedom and I was sad when I heard he was trying new things without me :(.

3 weeks after posting my last blog 'wishes of a SAHM' I was 'let-go' from my position. I held back my tears of joy and tried to hide the excitement that was welling up inside.
I have so many plans for this season in my life, First and foremost starting up Challah By Ima, homemade fresh Challah available to you in many different flavors for delivery or pick-up!

By starting Challah By Ima hopefully it will help me continue to be a SAHM and soon plan on babe #2?!

Stay tuned....
 

The wishes and woes of being a mother.

I'm not going to recap, basically Julien is a walking, talking todd almost 2! If you're a mother you know how that is.


My dream is to be a SAHM and care for Julien through his fits, tantrums, and laughs. I want to see him playing in the dirt, gardening and discovering new words. I want to be there for his first peanut butter and jelly, to clean his face before naptime, I want to see him...all day.

I'm working at a roofing company at the reception desk where you would assume the most traffic is and my days are still so lonely without my JuBug by my side. I cope with convincing them to buy a coffee machine so I can have unlimited caffeine to make my day go by faster, I find tedious paperwork to fill my time until the clock strikes 3:30, I zoom (65mph) through the traffic down 635, then 35, then loop 12, untl i hit a dead stop on 408, dare I take grady niblo's back road with speed humps to race to my Juj? Yes..Yes I do.

I've made it, he's either sound asleep and could care less if i'm there or he's distracted with Sabba. But..I don't care if he cares if i'm there or not..I care that i get to see him and watch him play, watch him do his hustle to the fridge for moi moi, I care that I don't miss the WHOLE afternoon and can see his sleepy head after a nap, I care that even tho he's acting too cool for school he probably pee'd in his diaper when he saw me.

My wish to be SAHM, it seems like such a long ways away, there needs to be a way for me to get out of this rut and live happily ever after with my Bug.




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*SAHM (stay at home mom). Inspired by @hellogiggles